About Us
This website has been created to support people recovering from stroke or sudden disability and the family and friends who help them. It’s a place to learn, share, and grow stronger together.
My Story
“Much like you, the person I used to be did not simply return once the hospital doors closed behind me.“
Sam
I am a stroke survivor.
Overnight my life split into a before and and after version of myself.
I am now less able, not disabled. This is my mantra.
The doctors, nurses, and care staff were essential. The doctors guided treatment, the nurses supported and more, everyone helped me rebuild confidence and taught me how to adapt.
Then I went home.
Why The Incapables?
I had to meet and find myself again. Slower, shakier, and more determined than ever. The shock of sudden disability rewired my days and my feelings. It changed life for the people I love. Together, with my family and friends, I have had to learn new ways to dress, to travel, to cook, to talk, and to laugh again. I have learned so much.
The Incapables exists because none of us should have to work this out alone.
I know the weight of “simple” tasks that stop feeling simple. I know how spasticity steals ease, how aphasia steals words, and how crowded rooms can feel like mountains. I also know the pride that comes from a ten-minute walk that used to take five, the calm of a shower that finally goes well, and the joy of a bus ride that lands you exactly where you hoped to be!
Who is this for?
This space is for stroke survivors who want practical wins, and for the friends, family, and carers who want to help without taking over. You are part of our story too. Your patience, your frustrations, your tiredness, your hope, and your questions all belong here. For all of us.
What will you find?
- Honest stories: clear, unpolished truths about good days and tough ones.
- Step-by-step guides: how to manage self-care, cooking, and socialising with fewer hurdles.
- Tools and checklists: simple methods you can save, so you do not have to remember everything.
- Language that includes everyone: tips for those that care so support feels kind, not controlling.
- Encouragement that respects limits: pushing when it helps, pausing when it is wise.
Why the name?
We call ourselves ‘The Incapables’ with a broad smile and self-deprecating humour! The world loves labels. We chose one and made it ours. It’s not a pity badge, it’s a superhero’s reminder of where we came from and who we are now. We are capable in new ways. We adapt, we improvise, and we keep going.
I am less able. I am not disabled. It is different.
This is our life now and we need to embrace it, not because it is easy, but because it is ours. If you are here, you are not alone. Let us make the next small step together.
With affection,
Sam